Let’s face it. Dating is tough. And the older we get, the more complicated it tends to be, especially dating after 50 for women. Maybe you are newly divorced from a longtime spouse or perhaps you were so career driven that you never quite took the time to focus on your love life. Whatever the case may be, know that not only are you not alone and that it is never too late to find love. Here are a few tips to get you started:
Where to Begin?
Get Savvy.. tech savvy that is. Admit it. You knew this was coming. Whether we want to accept it or not, everything is going digital these days. You can order your takeout online, “hail” a taxi from your phone and plan your next vacation all from the comfort of your own living room. It only makes sense that you now have the potential of meeting the love of your life from behind your computer screen. For some this may seem scary, but the truth is that this is the age we live in – it’s time to get with the times! Not sure where to begin? There are plenty of online dating sites out there and some that are even specifically designed with dating after 50 for women in mind. Here are some of my top picks:
- Match: Tried and true, ‘Match’ is one of the pioneers of the online dating world with a history dating (pun intended!) back to 1993. That’s over two decades of experience so they must be doing something right. They also claim to have the largest online database for seniors.
- eHarmony: This site takes their compatibility very seriously. Before even setting up a profile, you must go through a rigorous sign-up process, but don’t let that deter you, this is actually part of the service. The process is meant to determine your personality so the site can then provide you with the best matches possible.
- OurTime: Designed exclusively for dating after 50 for women and men, OurTime.com prides itself on being one of the only dating sites that “not only understands what it is to be over 50, but also celebrates this exciting chapter of our lives.”
You’ve Landed the Date, Now What?
Be open, but don’t force things. We have all been there. You’ve just sat down across from a new date and you realize ten minutes in that something just isn’t right. Maybe you have nothing in common or you just simply aren’t attracted to them. While it is important to be open-minded, your interactions should not feel forced, but should flow organically. Remember to listen to your gut. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Are you finding it hard to find things to talk about? Are you just not connecting? Chances are these little pangs are actually red flags that this may not be the right person for you. This of course doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t give someone a chance – people can surprise you – even if you do realize it isn’t a true love connection, you may end up having a fun night just the same. And remember, there is no shame in politely thanking your date for a lovely evening and excusing yourself.
Hot Tip! Always suggest either a daytime coffee date or early evening drinks on the first date, never dinner. This way, if you aren’t into it, you don’t have the pressure of having to sit through an entire meal and can gracefully make your exit. On the flip side, if you do like your date, you could always extend that coffee into a stroll through the park or turn early evening drinks into dinner. Give yourself options..you never know where things will lead.
Congratulations, You’ve Taken the Plunge!
Whether you’ve made a potential love connection or not, you’ve put yourself out there and you should feel good about that. It takes courage to date at any age, especially when dating after 50 for women as it may be that you’ve been out of the game for some time. The important part is not to get discouraged. With age, comes wisdom and a deeper understanding of self. Be kind to yourself and remain open to the possibility of love.